Everything in life is a choice. Even when we choose to do nothing, we are doing something. Sometimes it seems right, to do nothing; sometimes we are content to wait our turn. Sometimes, the holding pattern becomes so familiar that we find ourselves happy in a cycle that never changes. Unless you can honestly tell me that you’ve accomplished, or worked tirelessly to accomplish your wildest of dreams, it sounds more like complacency if you ask me.
Have you reached your career peak? Do you make time for your favorite hobby, regularly? Is the girl|or|guy you’re dating mutually invested? Is your spouse[wife|or|husband] working with you? Do you feel valued every day? Do you put into the world even a portion of what’s been bestowed upon you?
First things first, you are responsible for yourself. You have to seek God in knowing your purpose, and in following it. Stop looking around to have opportunities fall into your lap; maybe it happens on occasion, but that’s not the way things work. Faith without works, my friends. Now, once you’ve decided to put in the effort, to work, you change the dynamics.
Indecisiveness is a decision. Never allow yourself to be flung around like a pawn trading spaces on a board game. I don’t suggest cursing your boss out with or without profanity. I don’t recommend filing for divorce or breaking up with your boyfriend or fiancé on a whim. I don’t suggest spending money you don’t have on the vacation you really want. I do, however, suggest that you focus your mentality that you might objectively see your reality.
Can you advocate for yourself if the world you live in is full of delusion? Self-reflect. Ask yourself why! Are you really doing the heavy lifting?
I want to take a moment to share some of my own struggles:
- I am grateful every single day that I have a job, in a time where everyone doesn’t. If I’m honest, it’s not where I want to be. In the past few months, I’ve had to change my attitude so that my actions could reflect proper stewardship of what God has given me. Being okay with going to work late, or doing just enough to get by, is an awful reflection of who my God is, and furthermore is just plain taking it for granted. I didn’t deserve to travel the way I desire to, I didn’t deserve to be promoted in any way, and because I was irresponsible with my time, I didn’t deserve to enjoy my hobbies! Now I’m sure to work hard no matter who’s not watching, to self-start; when it’s time to advocate for myself, my work, too shall speak. Then, when I am overlooked, or dangling with another, I don’t have to accept it. I can recognize that indecisiveness, too, is a decision.
- I’m not a heavy dater(anymore, lol). I’m selfless, I’m loving, and therefore I am also careful with myself, my heart. I’ve fallen, hard, and it hurt. I’ve chosen people who haven’t not chosen me, but who haven’t chosen me either. I’ve learned the hard way that indecision, too, is a decision. I’ve been content with the fun we had, or how good it felt, never being honest enough to admit that whatever “it” was, it wasn’t going anywhere. In relationships(and situationships) sometimes it’s harder to recognize because connection is real, emotions dig deep, and reality is a little farther away. Because it’s that much harder, it’s also that much more necessary to get your mind in line, to be less emogical.
My hope for all of us is that we recognize our worth. We don’t need to be arrogant to shine. We have our Lord and Savior on our side; when we trust Him, we have a light that illuminates far more than a single room. We are called to greatness.
Dream. Work. & Prosper!
Never stop working to overflow your dreamer’s cup!